How Do You Connect with Others?

Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand. - John C. Maxwell

John Maxwell’s 10th Law of Leadership (of his 21 Laws) says, “Leaders Touch a Heart Before They Ask for a Hand”—known as the Law of Connection. A leader can’t connect with people only when he is communicating in groups; he must connect with individuals. I saw this law in action first hand this week when I served as a guest lecturer to a couple of classes at Baylor University.

For both classes, I arrived early and met a few of the students. From that initial interaction—and likely because they were interested—I could see their engagement throughout my presentations. However, those students would be unlikely to blindly follow my lead.

To get that kind of commitment, I would need to build stronger relationships…and be sure that my actions lined up with my words. For you see, the stronger the relationship and connection between individuals, the more likely the follower will want to help the leader.

Out of This World Leaders always initiate. They take the first step and make the effort to build relationships.

Click here to learn what the John Maxwell Bible says about the Law of Connection.

Who You Are is Who You Attract

But the law of magnetism really is true: who you are is who you attract. - John C. Maxwell

Out of This World Leaders are always on the lookout for good people. That’s where the 9th Law of Leadership comes in. The Law of Magnetism says that who you are as a leader is who you attract. I’ve always tried to use this rule of thumb when adding people to my team—would I be willing to work for him or her? I want to surround myself with people who are better than me with complementary gifts and skills.

Each of us carries around a mental list of what kind of people we would like in our organization. Believe it or not, whom you get is not determined by what you want, but by who you are. In most situations, you draw people who possess the same qualities you do.

It is possible for a leader to go out and recruit people unlike him or her, but it’s crucial to recognize that people who are different will not naturally be attracted to the leader. You have to be intentional to build a diverse team (check out my tips – Be a LEADer in D&I).

Click here to learn what the John Maxwell Bible says about the Law of Magnetism.