Do you have questions in 2020? As we approach Christmastime this Advent season, it seems appropriate to turn to Questions for Jesus, another book by Tony Stolzfus—whose 2005 book, Leadership Coaching: The Disciplines, Skills, and Heart of a Christian Coach, was very helpful as I entered the world of Executive Coaching.
As Stoltzfus notes, most of us as grew up learning to pray about the business of being a Christian. We ask for help to do the right thing, pray that our relatives will know God, or petition Him to bless what we are doing for Him. Almost all of our prayers contain the word “do”—as in, “What do you want me to do?’ or ‘I did this wrong, I’m sorry’ or ‘Help me do better.’”
From his experience as a coach, Stoltzfus recognized that asking is more powerful than telling, and believing in someone’s ability to think for themselves produced more change and better results than giving them advice. But he recognized that he spent his life trying to get God to be a teller, and is learning that’s really not God’s style.
The key is to engage Jesus on the level of your desires, instead of out of your head. Desires are in all of us. We were created as human beings with a built-in yearning for things like love, acceptance, freedom, security, or belonging.
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